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This is Water

6/17/2013

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As we ease into summer break and begin reflecting on the 2012-2013 school year, it's easy to think more about the stress, frustration, and disappointments we experienced than the success stories.

If you're anything like me, you store all of your mistakes (big and small) inside yourself and during those difficult school moments, begin playing them on a loop in your brain.

Then, when you're sufficiently on edge, all of the unexpected crises that pop up throughout the school day become more and more difficult to handle. I am a patient person, but even I need to take significant breathers when this occurs.
In the spirit of this type of self-reflection, I thought I'd share a video (above). It does a wonderful job explaining what the "real world" feels like. No one can prepare you for what it's really like to be on your own as a school counselor, including how to deal with outside stressors while still performing your many school counseling duties.

For those of you who have yet to join the profession, please don't think I mean to scare you away from, in my opinion, one of the best jobs there is. I am, however, trying to give you the heads-up that may prevent you leaving the field once you're in it. We often have an idealistic view of the helping professions, thinking we can save the world. Well, I still am quite the optimist, but I now know that saving the world shouldn't be my barometer for success. You have to accept the failures to appreciate the little victories. You have to go to work each day knowing that things probably won't go as planned, that a student may make a bad choice, that a co-worker may be struggling and take it out on you, that a parent may believe their child's story over their teacher's and call you to express their anger.

It's easy to let these unexpected events drag you down. Why is this happening to me?

Well, those who are frustrating you may be saying the same thing to themselves. When we're stuck in traffic, we are angry at those in front of us for not moving quickly enough, almost as if we're not part of the problem - "they" are. If we take a step back, we might realize that those cars behind us are probably feeling the same way...about US.

So, watch the video. Remind yourself why you want to be a school counselor. Recognize that kids and adults who act out are probably responding to difficult circumstances. Take a moment to appreciate your success stories, forgive the missteps, and remember..."This is Water."
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Heather link
6/20/2013 11:02:59 am

So blessed to have my fellow counseling bloggers out there to let me know, "I'm not the only one." I have an extremely large caseload (1,500+) and am the only elementary counselor in the district. Your posts are so relatable that I feel that your peeking in my windows ;)

I feel privileged to be "living the dream" but even after a decade of try not to own the success/failure of my students and their families I can't keep the shield up 24/7 and some of my kiddos just bore their way into my heart.

My mantra: I'm only one person. I do the best job I can. I love them while I have them and leave them better than when I found them.

Thank you for being a voice of reason in rocky water!
Best Wishes,
Heather
www.thehelpfulcounselor.com

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Marissa Rex link
6/25/2013 08:41:31 am

Thank you, Heather!

I can't imagine having the caseload that you do. I only have 350 and I feel stressed out all the time - it must be hard having that many students and no other school counselors in your district to lean on. I'm glad you have us, though! :)

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Wanda
6/23/2013 11:52:13 pm

I am reflecting upon my own school year closure and came across your blog. It was a refreshing and insightful way to remind my self (and my staff) just how important it is to slow down and respond with care and concern. We all need to keep our focus strong and determination that we are making a difference, even if it is one child at a time. We can not change the variables life offers us, but we can control the reactions and influences we present to others. .... This is Water!

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Marissa Rex link
6/25/2013 08:44:30 am

Thank you, Wanda! So true! :)

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